Crack Open His Heart Using Vulnerability In Your Relationships

“The Power of Vulnerability In Your Relationships” FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship” ＜＜ http://goo.gl/FqioIH Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session ↓↓↓ READ MORE ↓↓↓ In this video I'm going to talk about one way to create deep intimacy and long-lasting trust, loyalty and devotion with your partner. The concept is this: your vulnerability creates the opportunity for your partner to be their best self in the relationship. Here's what I mean, has any of your friends ever told you a secret about them and you promise not to share it? Probably. And how did it feel when that person revealed something that was really close to their heart and trusted you with that not to tell anybody? Did you feel honored? Did you feel respected? Did you feel like there was a closer bond that you had suddenly with that person? Probably. In that place where the person has trusted you with something that's close to their heart, you have the opportunity to either be someone that breaks your commitment or someone that stands and integrity in alignment with the commitment. And if they didn't give you that secret, if they didn't trust you with that secret, you actually wouldn't have the opportunity to choose integrity. So by them revealing something close to their heart, they are giving you a gift for the two of you to become closer; for the two of you to have a deeper bond and deeper intimacy and a stronger connection. Now there's another way that we can be vulnerable and share things that are close to our hearts in relationships. And one of the most common is this, let's pretend that your boyfriend or girlfriend miss an important date like an anniversary. Okay now once that anniversary is missed, you might be really angry and pissed off at your boyfriend for not giving you a gift or a card or something like that and see if you share the anger with him. And yes that is one form of vulnerability probably better than trying to play it cool like you're not pissed off and pull back and stuff it and hope that it goes away when really it's just festering underneath then explodes later on the relationship. But there's a deeper way to share something even close to your heart. And David Deida who is this author on intimacy and Tantra says this in such a wonderful fashion. He says that, “When we experience something from our partners that we don't like there's a primary emotion and there's a secondary emotion. And in the case of your partner missing an anniversary you might think it pisses you off but underneath that if we just peel it back what's really there, what's the primary emotion, it might be hurt, it might be this feeling of that you're not lovable or that you're not significant to your partner.” And see that is so tender that we think to share that with our partner. We might give them all the power. We might come off like we're needy. We might come off like we're weak and God forbid we come off like four weeks to our partner so we crusted over with anger and then we share that. The problem is it's not actually being vulnerable if it comes off like an attack to your partner. So the way to be vulnerable is to actually share the primary emotion which is the hurt and the feeling insignificant because when you do that you are bearing a piece of your heart to your partner for them to see. And what it does is it gives them a very clear reflection of the impact that they and their actions are having on you and then they get the opportunity to see themselves more clearly. And they can come into alignment and they can apologize and they can make something that was wrong, right? Don’t forget to download my FREE “8 Secrets to Create a Rock Solid Relationship”: http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ This eBook will walk you through the top secrets to build a healthy solid relationship that stands the test of time. In your corner, Clayton Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching? Click here to schedule: https://claytonolsoncoaching.com/1-hour-relationship-coaching-session Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/c/claytonolsoncoaching FREE EBOOK: “8 SECRETS TO CREATE A ROCK SOLID RELATIONSHIP” ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ CONNECT WITH ME ➜ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/ClaytonOlson101/?ref=hl ➜ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/ClaytonROlson ➜ PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/ClaytonCoaching/ ➜ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/claytonolsoncoaching/?hl=en VISIT THE WEBSITE: ➜ http://claytonolsoncoaching.com/ SEND ME AN EMAIL: ➜ [email protected] Share this video: https://youtu.be/-HTJc20CZSA ➜ https://youtu.be/-HTJc20CZSA