Healing from Incest

Paul Gilmartin talks about his experience with incest and how his interactions with his mother were on the spectrum of sexual abuse. He shares how getting sober from drugs and alcohol helped him "un-numb" and come to realize all his mother had done when he was young.He shares how he came to accept that incest happened and stop thinking that he had made it up. It takes time and when we are children, the fault will always fall on the adult. They are the ones who are responsible for their choices, because they are aware of what they were doing. When we are sexualized as children, we don't even understand what's happening to us.He shares how he came to accept that the incest had happened and stop thinking that he had made it up. It takes time and when we are children, the fault will always fall on the adult. They are the ones who are responsible for their choices, because they are aware of what they were doing. When we are sexualized as children, we don't even understand what's happening to us. It's also okay to find other people who can replace family members that you are no longer able to keep in contact with, and it's okay to mourn that loss. Paul has some amazing advice about how we can utilize the support of those who love us to work through it. When trying to process through incest, we may want to fall back into old unhealthy habits such as watching porn, using alcohol to cope, self harming, eating disorder behavior, etc. Talking to someone who is caring and supportive before doing any of those things is key to your recovery. So please reach out and speak up! Your feelings are valid, and as Paul says, you are not alone. Many have been sexually abused as children, and getting professional help is the quickest way to heal from it. xox Paul Gilmartin's podcast: http://mentalpod.com/ Link to book Paul mentions: https://www.amazon.com/Silently-Seduced-Parents-Children-Partners/dp/0757315879