Incest & The Narcissist: Silently Seduced | The Red Files | Balance Psychologies

In this video I look into the family dynamics of emotionally and psychologically damaging family units, usually ones where narcissist have been part of. Because of their own dysfunctional upbringing it is very much repeated behaviour that siblings and children are subjected to. I look into family incest which is evident in most (not all) family dynamics in narcissistic family units. Do these terms of endearment sound familiar? “Of all my children, I expected the most of you.” Translation: I’ve selected you to be the one to make my life worth living. “You’ve never caused me a minute of trouble.” Translation: Ignore your own needs, I can’t handle them. “You’re the only one who truly understands me.” Translation: I would be totally alone if it weren’t for you. If so, you may have been a “Chosen Child,” seemingly the focus of loving and devoted parents, but in reality a child walking a psychological tightrope — learning early on to deny your own needs in order to meet the emotional needs of a parent. There is a name for this devastating and increasingly common form of child abuse: Emotional or Covert Incest. Emotional or covert incest can be defined as the use of a child by a parent -or sibling- to meet adult needs (non-sexual, psychological, emotional or religious.) It is a form of parentification. Psychological Enmeshment Enmeshment occurs when individuals within families fail to develop a healthy and functional identity and ability to survive apart from the family group identity. There is a high degree of emotional fusion and a lack of clear or consistent personal boundaries between members. This fusion interferes with the child’s ability to develop a clear sense of self. It interferes with normal growth and development for children who are raised within an enmeshed family, and causes relationship problems as well as various other psychological problems. Covert, emotional incest occurs within enmeshed families and describes the dynamics of enmeshment. Covert incest typically occurs in families where one parent (the shadow parent) does not actively participate in family affairs, thus setting the stage for the other parent (the invasive parent) to turn to a child for emotional support. The invasive parent in effect makes the child a surrogate spouse who is forced to take on the responsibilities of the shadow parent. The roles are essentially reversed; instead of the parent looking after the child, the child is responsible for the parent’s well being. This is a terrible burden for a child to carry, as a child is incapable of meeting the emotional needs of an adult. As these children grow into adults, these warped styles of personal interaction and relationship dynamics are often repeated in their relationships, as they’re drawn to what they find familiar. Adults will recreate the unresolved conflicts of their childhood in their adult lives, using the only relationship skills they have and know – however dysfunctional. If you know anybody that is suffering from narcissistic abuse please could you share the video and information included in this vide. I also have a few blogs that talk about the emotional abuse and what narcissism is and what it may entail. Here is the link to my blog page (please feel free to browse): https://www.balancepsychologies.com/blog Please leave your comments below, I am trying to build a community and awareness into the devastating affects of Narcissistic Abuse and the destruction that follows on from this trauma. You may find my blog a useful source of information, this is the one that I mention in the video: https://www.balancepsychologies.com/single-post/2017/11/20/Dysfunctional-Narcissistic-Family-Units-Pretty-Decaying-At-The-Same-Time Thank you so much for watching and subscribing to my channel! Let's Connect! WEBSITE: http://balancepsychologies.com FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/balancepsych... TWITTER: https://twitter.com/BPsychologies INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/balance_psy... Have a listen to my all new Podcast: A BALANCED LIFE: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/a-balanced-life-podcast/id1245293773?mt=2 MY VIDEO SCHEDULE: ONE A WEEK (maybe two) BUSINESS ENQUIRIES [email protected]